My computer was having major issues the past few weeks
And with the holidays I was way to busy to do anything about it
So it was rather quite around here on this blog of mine
But I am back now and I hope everyone had a great holiday
And I thought I'd share here and see what other people thought
In November I asked William what he would really like for Christmas
And he told me he wanted a boy baby doll and a bottle
I figured it was a fleeting idea he had
But every time someone would ask him what he wanted he said the same thing
So I set out to find him a doll
You would be amazed at how difficult it is to find
A doll that is not dressed in pink
It wasn't easy but I found one
Now as Christmas was getting closer
more people are asking William about presents
And more people are chiming in on him wanting a doll
Strangers on the bus, Security guards at the store, family members
All telling him he doesn't want a doll
Dolls are for girls, why would you ask for that
Don't you want a ball or car? One day we were in the Mall
And Santa was there
We really don't do a who lot of Santa stuff around here
But William really wanted to see him and there was no line so we went
He sat on Santa's lap and he asked what he would like for Christmas
William said he wanted a doll and a bottle And you should have seen the look on Santas face
Then Santa asked him to repeat himself because maybe he heard him wrong
But second time same thing
Really your Santa, a boy never asked you for a doll before?
I didn't give the whole thing a lot of thought in the beginning
I knew why he wanted a doll
He sees me take care if Mia everyday and feed her bottles
And he wants to be like his Mommy
I see nothing wrong with that
It took William a really long time to
figure out how to play make believe type games
So anything that moves him in the direction of creative play
I in courageBut it made me really sad
that all of these people were telling him it was wrong to want a doll
He got his baby on Christmas morning and could not have been happier
Luckily hes not the type of kid to be discouraged easily
All of the comments didn't bother him one bit
He got a ton of gifts for Christmas
but that's the one he tells everyone about
18 comments:
I think it is awesome! What a sweet sensitive boy wanting to be like his Mom. How cute! I think it is so silly when people put children in roles based on gender. Why can't a boy want a doll? I think it is great!
Your posts are similar! It seems other boys want dolls as well. :)
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Good for you that you weren't swayed either! Boys have nurturing sides as well. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a boy wanting a doll and it's sad he was given so much grief over this. He must have been thrilled to open it on Christmas. :)
My oldest son wanted a baby doll when he was about 4 and I went out and bought him one. All kinds of people were shocked but he was happy as can be. He lost interest in the doll quickly and moved on to a ball of some sorts. My middle son asked for a Bratz boy for his 5th birthday and was pleased as can be when he got a Bratz boy for his birthday. Again, same reaction as from everyone else and he lost interest soon enough and moved on to spiderman and batman.
Guess what....when I was little I used to love to play with cars and one of my favorite games was cops and robbers :)
I think this is normal for both boys and girls!!
I think its about him adoring you, looking up to you and wanting to be a good caring mommy just like you!!!!!!
I LOVE IT!!!!!!
my friend Jess was telling me her son (3) wanted a doll as well! maybe it's a new trend! i dont know why people can't handle a boy wanting to nurture, and love on some thing.
if that is what he wanted then that is what he should get. :)
Wes has a boy doll too and nursed it while I nursed Felicity, sometimes. He does not bother with the doll at all any more and was never totally in love with it but when he was he was...if you get what I mean. He also wanted a kitchen set and vacuum cleaner for Christmas. We got a lot of weird comments on his requests and the doll but I really don't care either. I think it encourages them to be nurtures and caring and that is not a bad thing.
There is something so incredibly sweet about boys who love dolls (I've got two in my house!) The world needs more affectionate, engaged and compassionate men, you are helping him grow into one. And boo to the people who have a problem with that!
I am SO pleased that you felt comfortable enough to get him that doll!! I think that make believe play is great for our children... and especially when fostering. I think that any way we can encourage relationships or empathy is fantastic.
People really disappoint me sometimes. It's OK for a girl to play with cars and guns, but not for a boy to play with a doll (a boy doll even!) ... for crying out loud. I think that's just ridiculous, personally.
Yeah you and him for being happy with that decision! :) Sounds like he's a pretty great kid!!
Melissa
Ah...when he's a few years older, he'll want different boy dolls, and they'll call them "action figures" and nobody will think twice about it...
I think your initial reaction is right. Don't sweat it. ;)
Good thing he's not picking up on everybody else's neuroses. He'll probably be a great Daddy some day! ;)
Ah...when he's a few years older, he'll want different boy dolls, and they'll call them "action figures" and nobody will think twice about it...
I think your initial reaction is right. Don't sweat it. ;)
Good thing he's not picking up on everybody else's neuroses. He'll probably be a great Daddy some day! ;)
I think that is awesome! Kuddos to you for making his wish come true.
It teaches him to be a good daddy, and that is awesome! I bought my boy a doll for Christmas, and he loves to change its diapers :)
My brother had a 'My Buddy' doll when he was younger and he has grown up to be an incredibly nurturing thoughtful young man! (I know there's more having to do with that then the doll, but still)
My son is only 3 months old but I want him to experience a wide range of toys, from cars to kitchens to dolls - or whatever in between that he wants! (Within reason of course :))
I think it's great you got him the doll that he wanted and he is able to further expand his imagination and creative brain cells even more!
(found your blog via offbeatmama.com!)
Hi, I am a first time reader!
I just had to comment on this because my son (2) loves his dolls. When we go to a girl's house he runs to where they keep th dolls to play with them. Other people keep telling me "I am sure it is a phase" or "don't worry about it too much". I am not worried! Like you said it is a normal part of growing up and creative play.
Ariel
My brother had 3 sisters and a mom, no dad around when he was little. We all had dolls and so did he! Of course cabbage patch dolls were for everyone so nobody batted an eye when he had his dragging along behind him.
More eyes were batted when he demanded a yellow frilly bathing suit so he could "match". My mom is awesome for letting him run around in that on the beach when he was 4. We still make fun of him :) And he STILL doesn't care.
I realize this post is a few months old, but didn't anyone mention during all of this about the old Marlo Thomas song, "William's Doll"...? I think William is even 5 in the song...
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